San Diego EFT Community


There is so much to attend to during a first session. With limited information about the couples circumstances and experiences, one can often feel overwhelmed or anxious. There are a number of different paths to take, but the EFT map is the key to steering you in the right direction during these first crucial moments with your new clients.

We recently held this community event facilitated by EFT Trainer Kathryn de Bruin.

Thanks to all who help and attended. We had a lot of fun and fantastic learning.

Mastering First Sessions - Learning and Practice Community Event in June 2015

Mastering First Sessions – Learning and Practice Community Event in June 2015


March 27, 2013 at 6:00 pm

“The leading edge of self-compassion:

Reflections on Emotionally Focused Therapist Identity Development”

Hiroshi M. Sasaki, PhD

Join us for a rich evening in which Hiro will be sharing; What do I wish I could have told myself about my EFT training journey, when I started two years ago, and what’s most salient to me today? In fact, what does current research tell us about how we might improve the way in which we train Emotionally Focused Therapists? I will summarize these evidence- and experience-driven reflections; brainstorm them with a SD EFT therapist panel; and open up with Q & A at the end.

Appetizers and coffee provided. Cost is $10

2 CEU’s offered for an additional $25

LOCATION: Green Hall, click here for a San Diego Campus Map

Email: for more info or to get the evite for the event.


Sept. 25th, 2002

Dr. Mark Kaupp will present on EFT with Same-Sex Couples

DESCRIPTION: The successful marriage between Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) and Same Sex couples will be explored in this presentation.

A video of an initial therapy session with a gay male couple will help to clarify the particular dynamics apparent in most same sex couples and highlight how EFT is used to help understand and strengthen the couple’s bond.

An interactive discussion will follow exploring the potentially unique issues an EFT therapist may encounter and needs to be mindful of when working with Same Sex couples.

Contact Kathryn dr Bruin with email to: Kathryn de Bruin



May 8, 2012

Hunter’s Steakhouse, Mission Valley @ 6:30 pm

$25 for CEU’s ~ Buy your own dinner

Blamer Softening: A marker for a successful outcome in Emotionally Focused Therapy

With EFT Trainer: Lisa Ruderman

This program will offer participants the opportunity to see, through video demonstration
how the gradual process of deepening primary emotions in Stage Two sets the stage for the final EFT change event, Blamer Softening. This workshop will give participants an understanding of how this change event is a “building up” and “repetitive process.”

The Blamer Softening requires deepening of affect, attachment longing, working in the present process and creating enactments where the more pursuing partner taking risks to reach to the other to complete this major change event.

The primary strength of this DVD underscores the importance of accessing and expanding primary emotion. And highlights the session by session transformative process of Blamer Softening, the most significant change event in EFT.

The program is designed to be useful to therapists at all skill levels that seeking a better understanding of the theory and concepts guiding the Blamer/Pursuer Softening change event – a hallmark of Emotionally Focused Therapy.

Contact Kathryn dr Bruin with email to: Kathryn de Bruin


January EFT Community Event Tuesday January 11.

At this event we will participate in viewing two live EFT Consultation/Supervision sessions with EFT Trainers Scott R. Woolley and Lisa Palmer.  They will be consulting on the cases that will be part of the annual San Diego Externship.

You will learn about case conceptualization, session management, and about addressing treatment issues specific to the stage of therapy.

The consultations will be a rich learning experience, beginning promptly at 6:30 Tuesday evening. Refreshments and networking follow the presentation

2 CEU’s pending – optional – $25 fee.

We hope you’ll join us.

Please RSVP by Jan. 9th by email to: Kathryn de Bruin


If you want to see the live sessions, Scott and Lisa working the couples presented for the case consultation,  you are welcome to come to a first time offering of a 2-day master class EFT Reality Training: Live, Unscripted, Experiential.





November 3, 2011
6:00 – 8:00


Tio Leo’s
3510 Valley Centre Dr.

Meal Choices –

The menu of 6 items is as follows:

1)  Beef taco and cheese enchilada
2)  Two beef Tacos
3)  Two cheese enchiladas
4)  Beef tamale and combo burrito
5)  Taco Salad
6)  Caesar salad with chicken

$17.00/meal which includes non-alcoholic drink, tax and tip.

Location Directions:

Valley Center is between Carmel Valley Road on the south and Del Mar Heights Road on the North and crosses El Camino Real one block north of Carmel Valley Rd. The restaurant is on the WEST side of El Camino Real.


$17.00 for dinner and location – please prepay to help us reserve the location.

Send your check made out to TRI EFT Alliant to:

Vivian H. Nguyen
Marital and Family Therapy Program
Alliant International University
10455 Pomerado Road, DH-204
San Diego, CA 92131

CEU’s optional – pay at the gathering

Trainer Scott R. Woolley will show the movie and lead the discussion.

R.S.V.P. or get more info, just email Lisa Ruderman: